Everyone forgets things. Names slip. You walk into a room and lose the reason. That is ordinary.
The difference worth paying attention to is change — when someone is not managing
something they used to manage fine, and it is getting worse rather than staying the same.
The ten signs below are the ones the Alzheimer's Association uses. Each one is paired with the ordinary
version of the same thing, because the contrast is usually more useful than the sign on its own.
One thing to know first
Several causes of memory trouble are treatable and reversible. Thyroid problems,
vitamin B12 deficiency, depression, infections, sleep apnoea, and side effects of ordinary medicines can all
look like early dementia.
This is the strongest reason to get it checked rather than wait and watch. The
answer may be something fixable. And if it is not, everything else — treatment, planning, help — works
better the earlier it starts.
1 Memory loss that gets in the way of daily life
Forgetting information learned recently. Asking the same question over and over. Needing notes,
reminders or family members for things they used to keep in their head without effort.
Ordinary ageing: sometimes forgetting a name or an appointment, and remembering
it later.
2 Trouble planning or solving problems
Struggling to follow a recipe they have cooked for thirty years. Losing track of the monthly bills.
Finding it much harder to concentrate, and taking far longer over familiar tasks.
Ordinary ageing: making the occasional mistake with the bills or the chequebook.
3 Difficulty finishing familiar tasks
Getting lost driving somewhere they have driven for years. Trouble with the rules of a favourite game.
Difficulty with the ordinary steps of a job they have done a thousand times.
Ordinary ageing: occasionally needing help with the microwave settings or
recording a TV programme.
4 Confusion about time or place
Losing track of dates, seasons, the passage of time. Forgetting where they are or how they got there.
Trouble understanding something unless it is happening right now.
Ordinary ageing: getting confused about what day it is, then working it out.
5 Trouble with what they see and how things sit in space
Difficulty reading, judging distance, or telling colours apart. This can show up first as a problem with
driving, or with steps and kerbs.
Ordinary ageing: vision changes caused by cataracts or another eye condition —
which is why an eye test is worth doing too.
6 New problems with words
Stopping in the middle of a sentence with no idea how to continue. Repeating themselves. Struggling to
find the right word, or calling things by the wrong name — "that hand clock" for a watch.
Ordinary ageing: sometimes having trouble finding the right word.
7 Putting things in odd places and not being able to retrace
The keys in the freezer. The remote control in the bathroom. The important part is the second half:
being unable to go back over their steps to find it. Some people start accusing others of stealing, and
this can get worse over time.
Ordinary ageing: misplacing things from time to time and retracing your steps to
find them.
8 Poorer judgement
Handling money in ways that do not make sense. Giving large sums to telemarketers or scammers. Paying
much less attention to washing, dressing or keeping themselves tidy.
Ordinary ageing: making a bad decision or a poor choice once in a while.
9 Pulling back from work or people
Dropping a hobby, a team, a social group they loved. Avoiding company. Often this is because keeping up
with a conversation has become hard work, and withdrawing is easier than being caught out.
Ordinary ageing: sometimes feeling tired of work, family or social obligations.
10 Changes in mood and personality
Becoming confused, suspicious, depressed, fearful or anxious. Getting upset easily — at home, at work,
with friends, or anywhere outside their usual routine.
Ordinary ageing: developing very specific habits and getting irritable when the
routine is disturbed.
Make an appointment if any one of these is true. You do not need several. You do not need
to be sure.
- Someone is struggling with something they used to do easily, and it is getting worse over months.
- The forgetting is affecting work, money, medicines or driving.
- Other people have noticed it too — not only you.
- They have become withdrawn, suspicious or unusually low, and it is out of character.
- You have been talking yourself out of worrying about it for a while now.
Start with their regular doctor. You do not need a specialist referral to begin,
and the first appointment is mostly conversation and simple tests.
This is often the hardest part. A few things that help:
- Pick one specific thing, not a list. "I noticed you missed two of Dad's tablets last
week" lands better than "your memory is going".
- Make it about ruling things out. "There are a few causes of this that are easy to fix
— let's find out" is true, and far easier to accept.
- Attach it to something already happening. The annual check-up. The blood pressure
review. It does not have to be a special appointment about memory.
- Offer to go with them. And write down what you have noticed beforehand — dates,
examples. Doctors take a written list seriously.
- Expect to raise it more than once. Refusing the first time is normal. It is usually
fear, not stubbornness.
If they will not go at all, you can still call their doctor's office and share what you have seen. They
may not be able to tell you anything back, but they can put it on the record.
How do I tell ordinary forgetfulness from a warning sign?
The thing that matters is change. Forgetting a name and remembering it later is ordinary. The warning
sign is no longer managing something that used to be managed without effort, and it getting worse over
months rather than staying the same.
Can memory trouble be caused by something treatable?
Yes. Thyroid problems, vitamin B12 deficiency, depression, infections, sleep apnoea and side effects of
ordinary medicines can all look like early dementia, and several are reversible. That is the strongest
reason to get it checked rather than wait and watch.
When should I make a doctor's appointment?
Any one of these is enough: someone is struggling with something they used to do easily and it is
getting worse over months; the forgetting is affecting work, money, medicines or driving; other people
have noticed it too; or there is a change in character that is out of character for them. Start with their
regular doctor — no specialist referral is needed to begin.
When is sudden confusion an emergency?
Go to an emergency department the same day if confusion comes on over hours or a couple of days rather
than months, or if there is a fever, a fall, a head injury or a sudden change after starting a new
medicine. Call 911 for weakness or drooping on one side, sudden trouble speaking, or
a sudden severe headache. Sudden confusion is usually not Alzheimer's.
Can this page tell me whether someone has Alzheimer's?
No. No web page can. Only a clinical assessment can give a diagnosis, and many other conditions cause
the same signs.
This page is not a diagnosis
Nothing here can tell you whether someone has Alzheimer's. Only a clinical
assessment can do that, and many other conditions cause the same signs. We summarize published guidance and
point you to a doctor — we do not give medical advice.